This paper analyzes the semantic and pragmatic dilemmas of a tripartite intentionality in human-computer dialogues for affective communication with a connectionist approach based on vector semantics.The neural networks currently adopted for affective computing,including the chat GPT model,are still formal rather than semantic processing for their failure in understanding either the intentionality of human language or of the human mind.To achieve a true semantic understanding,a transformation of philosophical assumption with a top-down design which traces the source of meaning from the body and the world for an embodied intelligence should be made.